Life Happens For You, Not To You

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Hey, what's going on, everybody.

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Welcome back to the elemental oven show.

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Thank you all for tuning into this mini Monday episode.

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So every Monday I do one of these mini episodes, which are more focused on

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typically mindset, but they also dive into other types of health and wellness.

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But mindset is so important because it really can help benefit our mental

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health, which is definitely something that a lot of people need to improve.

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Or are working on.

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And so by being able to shift our mindset into a more positive One with a better

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outlook, we can also help to shift our negative mindsets that can lead to these

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detrimental forms of mental health.

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So that's typically what these Monday episodes are about.

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And that is what this one is going to be about.

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Uh, today's episode is actually going to be on the quote of.

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Life happens.

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For you.

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Not to you.

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Now let's go ahead and start off with just dissecting this.

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So when we say that life happens for you and not to you essentially.

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It's looking, you know, think of the person who is like, Ah, you know, of

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course this had to happen to me today.

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Thanks God.

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Thanks for giving me this, you know, or, or thanks to, you know,

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whoever, you know, fill in the blank for giving me this hard life.

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You know, I like.

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Always happens to me.

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Life is so tough, you know, and, and they always look like they're

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just dealing with a result of life.

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Like they are at the whim of whatever life throws at them, you

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know, and they have zero control.

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They're not able to.

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You know, do anything and, and life is just always throwing something at them.

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They're always victimizing themselves.

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Right.

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Well, this is a very detrimental mindset to have, because if you

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believe life is happening to you and you just have no control and you're

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just taking beatings left and right.

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This is creating a narrative around your life into just, yeah.

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Essentially being a victim and not having the capability to grow from

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life's hardships and, you know, become better and do better, or, you know,

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not make the same mistake twice.

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You know, these are really important things.

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And so.

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For example, the person who states that, you know, life is happening for them,

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as opposed to happening to them, they are growing from whatever hardships may

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arise or setbacks, setbacks may occur.

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You know, if, um, your tire pops on the road one day and, you know,

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Of course you can be like, oh, why did it have to happen today?

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Geez.

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He's like, life is just out to get me yada, yada, yada, you know, and just

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have a negative outlook on it and let it just ruin the rest of your day.

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Or you can look at it as a positive and see it in a way of look, my tire

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popped and maybe, you know, it's because, you know, I meant to learn

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how to change out a tire today.

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If you don't know how to change a tire or, um, get some patches in your trunk so

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that if this does occur again, you can.

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Pop one of those in and be ready to go, you know, it can look at it as a

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learning experience or, um, maybe it was meant to happen at this time, you know?

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And, and it's, uh, preventing you from.

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Being in a car crash later down the road or whatever it may be, you know,

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you can always change the narrative around it and realize that life.

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Is happening for you.

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And this is just a mindset shift.

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I mean, you can choose to look at life in whichever way you want,

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because realistically, if you believe you're, if you believe

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it's one way, then you're right.

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If you believe it's the other way, then you're also right.

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You know, uh, whatever your belief is is, is technically going to

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be your reality and your truth.

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So why not make your reality and truth one that is beneficial and

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going to better you in the long run?

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Right?

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Allowing life to happen for you?

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Like everything Conspiring for you to be the best version of yourself.

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Every hardship that you're facing is just toughening your skin,

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toughening your brain, your mentality,

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Um, your work ethic to just be better and always constantly improve and grow.

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Right?

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Cause you can always look at hardships is, you know, life being out to get

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you, or you can look At it as an opportunity to grow, you can look

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at your problems as puzzles, right?

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Puzzles that just need to be solved, not a problem, but a puzzle,

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something that is going to be solved and make you better because the

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next time you face that problem.

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You'll now have the tools, the mentality, the mindset to go ahead and take on that.

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And do a much better job at it, right?

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You're going to be better equipped to handle whatever that may be.

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So, this is really one of my favorite quotes actually.

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I heard my fiance make this statement not too long ago.

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Uh, she said that quote in.

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And honestly just sparked a whole episode for me.

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So, uh, that's why I'm here talking about it.

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And I think it's so true and really important to have this type of mentality.

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If we start to look at life as being in our favor, Then that means that

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everything life is throwing our way, whether it's good, whether it's

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bad or, you know, in the middle.

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Then it was meant for us.

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It was meant for us to go through that, experience it and learn from it.

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Right.

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Because they say, um, you know, a mistake or a, yeah, like a mistake is not really

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a mistake if you learn from it, right.

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If you learn from it and don't make the same mistake again.

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A second time.

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Then it was never really a mistake.

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It was just a learning experience.

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And we can look at life as that as simply that, you know, um, if you're at

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work and all of a sudden someone has to call off sick or they quit or whatever,

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and then you have to take on their work and you have to, you know, now double

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down on all this work and it's stuff that you aren't normally used to doing

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well, you can look at it as a moment to.

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Basically learn from, from this hardship, you know, maybe they

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were in charge of doing, you know, different tasks that you aren't.

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Uh, customer doing, but then after, you know, having to do their work

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and pick up their slack, now you're so much more capable at your job.

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You're now a much, much more valuable asset to the company because you know,

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way more information than you did, if you were just stuck and stable in your, you

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know, in your, your common job in which you are technically not really growing

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once you already have it down to a science and can do it without thinking, right.

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But if you learn something else now you're so much more valuable to the company.

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Maybe.

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You get a pay raise, maybe, you know, now you're more qualified

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to step up to a new position.

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Uh, you know, you can always look at life as being in your favor.

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Even these hardships, These setbacks, they can just be moments of learning.

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And I think this is really valuable.

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I think this can really help shift a lot of people's mindsets and even to a degree.

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Uh, some mental health as well, because I think when people feel like

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such a victim, You know, it's easy to get kind of depressed and down.

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Like, man, I just can't catch a break.

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But maybe you're not meant to catch a break right now.

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Maybe you're meant to grow.

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Maybe these next three months are going to be a hardship, but you're going

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to come out of those three months.

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Way ahead of the game, better than you were, you know, in the last five

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years, you know, learning so much.

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And, and I think that's so important to have, if we can just look at life

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Really helping us to grow and not, you know, just a setback that's, you

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know, a hardship and we have to deal with it and deal with the stress of

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it, but rather just learn and grow in that moment and understand that.

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Every hardship is an opportunity to learn, to grow and to be so

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much better than you are now.

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That is the only way you grow is when you get uncomfortable.

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And when you go through something difficult.

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You're going to come out on the other side.

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Better equipped to handle whatever it is.

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So anyways, that is today's topic.

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It is.

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Make the change in your mindset to life happens for you.

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It doesn't happen to you.

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And I think if you can make this mindset change, Is going to be so beneficial for

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not only just you, but even the people around you, because they're going to

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see how you handle stressful and hard.

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Uh, hard situations.

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And they're going to ask you, Hey.

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How the heck did you keep such a good, you know, calm and, and, um,

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good mindset about, you know, the situation that you were going through.

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And you're going to be able to share this with them.

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And I think that's very, very beneficial, uh, to grow us as a whole, you know, as

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a whole society and, uh, make us better.

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So anyways, I hope you really enjoy this quote as much as I did, it sparked such a

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flame under me when my fiance stated it.

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And I hope it does the same for you.

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I hope it has got you.

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Going, got you some Monday.

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Motivation.

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Got you ready to go tackle the day?

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And if you're going through something very difficult and hard right now, then

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just understand that it is temporary.

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It will come to an end eventually, and it can be a learning opportunity for you.

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Everything you go through has a message has a lesson in it.

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You can always find some value in everything you go through.

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So.

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Look for it.

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There's always, you know, it can always be worse and, uh, you know,

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create that mental strength that we all have and are capable of.

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So, anyways, I hope this all helped you out very That's going to be today's uh,

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sorry, this week's, uh, exercise because I try to give you guys an exercise once

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a week, and I usually do it in these episodes, and that is going to be simply

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to look at your problems as puzzles.

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Right?

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Go ahead and see how you can grow from each thing.

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I understand that you can look at life as working in your favor,

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conspiring to make you the best strongest version of yourself possible.

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Through all these hardships.

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Okay.

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Try to have that mindset shift.

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So, you know, become aware of the problems you're going through right now with

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the hardships you're facing right now.

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And try to find what is it that you're meant to learn through these hardships.

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All right.

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Y'all that is going to do it for today's Monday mini episode.

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Look at your problems as puzzles and connect to your elements.

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That's going to do it everybody much.